Tuesday, October 25, 2005

Happiness Formula - To Attain Happiness in Life

Desires, desires, desires------. We are obsessed with them. How a single human can have so many desires? Nobody can answer this question. When one of our desires get fulfilled then thousands of other desires come up instantly. Desires are not restricted to any single person, a poor person can have them and simultaneously a rich person. Desires are something, which everybody has in abundance and everyone has its own set of desires. Someone desires for money while other for a beautiful house. Desires are endless and we can have desire for a small trivial thing to highly expensive one.

Is it good to have a desire or not? Desires are good, if they are in controlled number and are in ones achievable limit. Desires provide us the energy to fulfill our dreams. It gives our goals the motive and direction. One can only fulfill his dreams, if he has desire for it. Desire is first basic thing to achieve something. All the world leaders who have achieved excellence in their lives have strong desire for achievement. Desire work as the basic ingredient in fulfilling our dreams. Therefore desires are necessary, as they give direction to our life.

However on the contrary, we are usually over burdened by our desires. We have desires much more than what we can achieve. Most of our desires originate due to the achievements and lifestyle of others. We want to become or look like others. Second the world is shrinking, making more things in our reach. This is putting more pressure on our decision making power. TV and Media are also increasing our desires by providing us information about lots of thing. Ours friends and relatives’ achievements also generates more desires in us. Therefore, we come under the pressure to desire more and achieve more. If we do not control our desires at right time then they can swallow everything available with us.

Many people do lot of mistakes due to their desires. Like, they take huge loans which are difficult to repay for them. They spend unwisely on irrelevant things. They do not save for future. If, this thing is not taken care of then it can take away our happiness and make us miserable. However, very few people think about this fact and go on increasing their desires whole life. A child is born with few desires, but as child progresses in his life, he starts accumulating lot of desires.

There is nothing bad in increasing desires, but the main problem comes when they remain unfulfilled. More desires we have, more the chances of unfulfilled desires. And more the unfulfilled desires, more sad we are. Therefore we born as a happy child but, we die as sad human beings. We have to learn this simple principle in life that we cannot achieve everything in life. We have to plan our life and achieve things wisely.

People can consider this formula of Happiness-

Happiness= Desires fulfilled/desires new generated+ old desires

Happier we will be when the denominator is more and base is less. We only consider about increasing the denominator and not decreasing the base, where as we can do the reverse for our betterment. It is not possible in this world to achieve everything; however it is possible to limit our desires. We can become happy by using the second method of decreasing base. Therefore by having our desires in control we can easily become happy.

Also read-When I accidently meet with Happiness